I managed to attend SJ’s wedding today–it was an eye-opener as I realised the amount of planning and work invested into something that only lasts for around 2 hours, but then again the occasion was very important. I was quite fortunate to be chosen as an usher–managed to chill out in style in a suit!
There was this fuzzy feeling inside me when I saw SJ kissing the bride and taking her as his own. It signified a loss of his singlehood and the reality that he was to walk a new road. It also occurred to me whether I would get to experience the same thing as SJ.
Yet it was during the exhortation by SJ’s friend that made me reflect on the issue of love. There were these quote he said:
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” – C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” – Dr Seuss
This made me feel how important it is to open your heart to love and to feel loved as well–it goes both ways. Without love life would be barren, devoid of feeling. One would never be fulfilled when a relationship fails to grow.
I noticed that the couple actually asked guests to pen down their well-wishes and what each party would do. There were many responses along the lines of ‘Love each other well’ and “Take care of your wife/husband”. This highlighted once again the importance of love, be it a marriage or relationship.